Few nights ago, I attended a house party thrown by a birthday celebrant, and expectedly, it was fun fun fun.
Until some issues came out later in the drunken night, that is.
First, it was the issue about J and how it left me confused, and lost, and sad.
Second, in the wee hours of dawn the day after, and amidst the swirling drunkenness of all involved, there ensued an argument between brothers. I don’t understand the whole story, partially because I was drunk and partially because I was more concerned about the state of drunkenness of K, R and J. Anyway, since it was, at that time, impossible not to notice what was going on, I surmised that it was an issue about privacy in the household.
At some level I understand both sides. One, I understand the side of the housemates, who expectedly and naturally should have a say as to whom should be invited over the house for sleepovers. I get that. I too would throw a fit if my roomie decided to have someone over without my permission.
But on the other hand, I too understand the other side. As a man in love, the others should understand that now, they are no longer dealing with two separate individuals. Now, their roommate and the person that that roommate is in a relationship with, becomes one and the same. Where one goes, the other follows. Such is the nature of a relationship that no one should even expect that secrets among them would not be revealed.
You see, here is my take on relationships. At first, there are two individual and separate persons. But when these persons decide to be together, they don’t merely become together literally, but they also merge in everything else. Their lives collide and become one such that two paths converge and become one superhighway where the people build their lives together (at least until the time when they separate, and once more, live separate lives).
So I don’t suppose others should blame their roommates for having the person which he is in a relationship with sleepover anytime. Such is the nature of relationships, and that is something that friends, especially brothers, should understand.
Don't you agree?
Until the next time, XOXO, Gossip boy.
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